Have you ever considered the prospect being able to be a “Stay At Home” Mom?
I’m guessing that you probably entertained the idea before deciding that it’s either not possible financially or you actually just prefer to work and that’s cool too. Unless you are a Stay At Home Mom, in which case, that’s flipping awesome too! In our case I really do enjoy my job, yes insurance is no one’s cup of tea per say, but I work with a fantastic group of people and I really wouldn’t want it any other way. Besides, I am privileged to be able to do a bit of both as I only work until 2 every day – getting a chance to have a small slice of the stay at home life.
But my real question is whether you have ever considered “Stay At Home Daddy“?
No? Why not?
Actually I am not even going to go into gender specific roles and blah blah blah. What I am going to say is that if we were able to have one parent at home, Seth would be it. He’s just generally better at it than I am.
- He is a more adventurous cook, which may result in a few nightmareish mealtimes in getting the kids to try it, but they would have the opportunity to taste things that I wouldn’t generally expose them too.
- He hates things being untidy, so the kids would learn to clean up after themselves every single time they took out something new and our house would be immaculate – win win.
- He’s not afraid of going to the shops with all three of them in tow so we would always have a fully stocked fridge
- He’s not afraid of being out alone with them like I am. (The sad fact is that it’s not me being worried about the loss of control of them – or my mind – when taking them out alone, it’s the worry that I will not be able to protect them should something happen).
The only downside is that unless the kids went to school, he would under no circumstances be allowed to go to play dates (not that he would particularly want to). A gorgeous hunk of a man alone with potentially single ladies – no flipping ways. I wouldn’t want to be forced to go Dexter on anyone’s Mom. Just joking.
Or am I?
Anyway. A while back I had to go to work and Seth took the day off to go to the girls school concerts for Father’s Day. I got home and they were all frolicking around in the park. They were all just so happy and instead of letting my FOMO get the best of me, I just sat back and enjoyed the moment.
It was perfect.
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My Zain is a stay-at-home dad. I’ve written about it on my blog. It’s amazing the bond that they have and how much easier going back to work was knowing that my baby was in good hands. I think it’s really special for the kids when they can have their dads around in that capacity.
I agree with u!
That is so true! Knowing that they are in good hands, with someone who loves them just as much as you do. We are blessed in my in laws looking after ours in the mornings and I am grateful for them every single day. I can be at work knowing that they are being properly loved and looked after. xo
Knox is looking more like Riya nowadays… they are all so damn adorable man!
It feels like they change how they look every day. If that is even possible. xo
Chris would LOVE to be a stay at home dad, and he would be amazing at it! we have a taste of it when he comes home from site – he doesn’t have to work at all when he is in SA so does everything for and with Zoe. I think it is a wonderful thing for either parent to be able to choose whether to stay home or go to work after babies!
I don’t know how you cope with your man away so often, but at the same time, it is so extra awesome that he gets to spend every second that he’s home focused on the important things and not being distracted by work. xo
The boyfriend and I are not married and no babies in sight, but he finds the idea of staying at home with kids totally appealing and is happy to do all the “chores” that would come with it… For me personally, the stay at home mom thing doesn’t appeal, being around and actively involved – yes, but all day, every day? It would makes sense for us though, I have studied a ton, have a great job and absolutely love to work and I’m crazy ambitious. The bf doesn’t feel the same way about the corporate ladder! I think women feel the need to apologise about staying at home or choosing not to and that isn’t right. Each to their own! If it works for your family, good for you!
Totally agree with you Christine – there is no cut and paste scenario that works for all of us and no need to apologise for it either! xo
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