Sometimes I wonder if there will ever be a day that I don’t think about having another baby.
Granted that some days the thought is more fleeting than others and maybe it’s more along the lines of, “Oh my goodness today was hard, how would we ever cope with another baby to take care of?”. But it’s still there. Often a little flame on the rough days (think paying school fees day), but other days it burns like a raging fire – like when I see newborns on friends timelines or snuggle my sleeping baby who is no longer a baby, but an independent, strong willed little boy.
When I’m feeling particularly broody I stand in front of the mirror like this:
I picture myself being pregnant again right now at this moment. What that would mean for us as a family and whether I would cope – the result is almost always terror, but anyway. It’s pretty easy to imagine actually, I can easily picture myself as 20 weeks pregnant because, well, that’s exactly how far along I look.
Surprisingly it’s a super power that most of us Moms have. We spend 90% of our day sucking in our gut only to exhaustedly let it out when we get home. I joked on Facebook that it’s a super power because we can play on the bad guys feelings (if they have those pesky things) and just when they’re about to go easy on the poor pregnant lady, you nut punch them and run away. I feel like they could add this into the next Captain America movie. #teambelly!
The reality of having three beautiful creatures birthed out of my body in quick succession, is that I am left with a body that doesn’t seem to remember that the baby is no longer in there. We won’t even talk about my stretch marks. Guys, really. I see women waltzing around in their little bikinis with a two week old baby in their arms with not one stretch mark. Not even a little one to make me feel better. It makes me sick. I can’t wait for “natural belly doilies” to be the next big thing, but for now I’ll just be ahead of the times. Fashion is not ready for me yet.
If you’re still heading into that phase of your life, why are you reading this blog?
Just joking. I know reading this blog is a small form of contraception – I’m actively sharing my woes to try and help you stick to your 5 year plan.
Seriously though, if you’re still heading into this phase, please for the love of all that is good in this World, don’t be like me. Use products that can help you prevent the natural belly doilie of stretch marks that I now sport on a daily basis – despite a lot of marketing I just don’t think it will catch on. On option is to use Bio-Oil, the skincare brand most recommended by doctors, pharmacists and midwives to help prevent pregnancy stretch marks. Use it and thank me later.
Bio-Oil is also a passionate advocate for childbirth education, to give parents the knowledge to make informed choices – read about that here.
This Pregnancy Education Week (13 to 21 February) I’m giving away a Bio-Oil baby hamper (worth R1150). The cute basket contains a soft bunny, cotton babygro, two blankets, a baby scan album, ‘Tips from Moms for Moms’ booklet and three bottles of Bio-Oil.
Feel free to enter for you, your friends or anyone that you know that’s planning on having a baby sometime soon.