A little while ago I wrote about being a NO Mom. If you missed it, you can catch up here. I’ll wait.
Cool – welcome back.
OK, OK. Before you lay into me about being a chop of a Mom or telling me that my kids are going to reject my parenting and go so far off the rails that they end up in jail (I wish I was joking, this was an actual comment someone left), let me just clarify that… No wait. I’m not clarifying anything. If you read so deeply into something that is obviously written in jest, then maybe this blog is not for you.
Moving on.
So I wrote that post and I don’t always say NO and blah blah blah. But the fact still remains that I say NO a lot. Maybe more than most other Moms.
Many of my readers commented with this thing that they do called a YES Day. The long and short of it is that no matter what your kids asks, they get a big fat YES from you (unless it puts them in mortal danger of course, because if you say yes to that, then maybe you shouldn’t be a parent after all). Anyway, this whole idea is that it’s supposed to make them realise that Mom is also fun and help them to grow up without completely resenting you and ending up in prison. You know, the little things you aspire to in parenting all summed up in one day.
It was time to give it a try.
Now look. I don’t dress my girls anymore, but I do gently guide them in making relatively good clothing choices. Helping them to leave the house looking like they actually live in a house and not in a place that vomits patterns and textures on them as they curl into a ball on the floor screaming. Are they screaming or am I the one screaming, I can’t be sure, either way… Sorry, my brain got ahead of me there. But this morning friends, I didn’t say a word. Nothing. And well…
They did OK actually. Still not what I would have chosen for them but we’re all making progress!
Instead of the usual breakfast they opted to just having bananas. They also desperately wanted to take their dolls to church and so that happened too. After the service, we were inside having coffee when suddenly there was a commotion outside. We ran outside to find, well it’s hard to explain.
We found this… And yes, that is Kyla at the very top!
Uhhhh… The good news is that we managed to get them all down safely and it all turned out OK.
After that we headed out to Bugz Play Park. We hadn’t been there since before we had kids, so we were surprised at all the cool things that they have there now. From train rides to in door jungle gyms to water slides. Perfect for any weather conditions. We’d been putting off going to Ratanga Junction because they wouldn’t really be able to go on any of the rides and here at Bugz they could go on everything (which, being YES Day and all, they totally did).
We rocked up famished, which meant that our first stop was obviously FOOD. The kids chose their favourite things with juices while Seth and I had salad. The salad, although nice, is just not a burger. Which is really what I felt like. But anyway. After lunch we went on all the rides that we had to be dry for and then headed to the water slides.
Guys, my kids have not been on waterslides before and their reactions hitting the bottom was so funny that I might actually have wet myself a little. Oh the joys of three pregnancies haha.
Anyway. Whatever they wanted, they got. Whatever they wanted to do, they did. We walked that park flat, tried every single thing there. It was a super fun day.
By the time we got home we were all zonked and ready to call the end of our first successful yes day.
So, in case you’re wondering. We didn’t actually tell them that whatever they asked we’d say yes to because, well, because I’m not stupid. That would be like giving them the key to the candy store and walking away. But I think they still had a great day and enjoyed every second of it. I’d totally recommend it for Moms in the same boat as me, who feel like you’re always the bad guy.
Oh and for those Moms in CT looking for somewhere awesome to entertain your kids, why not check out Bugz. It’s really worth it.
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Bugz place looks really cool. Well done mommy for letting your guard down a bit.
That swing thing was a definite NO – how did your heart manage to continue beating? Can’t deal
Thank you! I do feel like I need a small pat on the back for actually doing it 😉
Love Bugz! And we definitely need to go back soon.
YAY! Glad that your YES day was such a success. My heart would have popped out of my chest for that swing stunt, so well done *pat* *pat*
Hahaha – yeah it was a bit of a moment!!
Ok, so I’ve just caught up – the NO mom post resonated with me, because I also feel like I’m the bad guy always saying no! Kind of helps knowing I’m not alone.
And your YES day sounds like it so much fun! Well, apart from that little human ladder swing thing! I’d have had a heart attack finding Zee in there… #paranoidmomproblems 😀
You are definitely not alone at all!!!
I actually thought you tell them it’s a yes day which is why, when I read the other post on this, I was like, mmmm my kids would have a field day and totally take it for granted. I get it now… you don’t tell them, you just do it. Sooooo I think this Saturday will be a yes day! Thanks Cindy. Xx
YAY for Yes Days!!!
You go girl! And it didn’t turn out bad 🙂 Very cool!!!
i loved this post – had such a chuckle. Look i don’t have kids but I am married and I often feel like I am the parent (LOL – no really); perhaps hubby needs a yes day too. And no, I am not telling him because that literally could take me anywhere!
HAHAHA! I think the key is only telling yourself that it’s a yes day, that way it can’t get crazy out of control 🙂 And you’re so right! Our hubbys need yes days too!
I love this idea! I am definitely a No mom – 4 kids, a job and not enough time in the day means far too many No’s. Going to try a yes day in terms holidays for sure!
I’ve heard this YES day a few times before… I need to try it soon!! And as for Bugz Park – why don’t we have one in Durbs?! x
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