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“Doing It All” Is A Myth

26 January 2017
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After hitting the button on my third alarm this morning, I was (as usual) not wanting to get up at all.  So instead I was lazing in bed and thinking through my day.  Suddenly it hit me.  The perfect day that I planned out was completely thwarted.

I was going to rock this whole Mom and Business Woman thing.  The plan was to take my daughter and her class mates to an outing in town, come into my office to work and then take them home again.  Easy right?  Maybe.  Except that I totally forgot that I have to take Knox to school and the small matter that I had a Skin Renewal appointment in Claremont at 9.

Aaaand, if you know anything about Cape Town traffic, you’ll know that trying to get to all of this between 8am and 9am is basically impossible.  It’s like a good hair day – it happens, but only when there’s no one there to see it.

But back to my morning.  Luckily I could call in the special forces for assistance.  My Mom took Knox to school and I called Skin Renewal to push my appointment just a bit later to 9.30.  Which seems like it all worked out right?

Well no.

Because as I was racing from Claremont to Town I realised that I was beating myself up in my thoughts.  Do you do that?  If you’re a woman, of course you do.  I just can’t believe that I am alone in this.

There I was alone in my car – I could have been singing off key to all the throw back tunes on KFM, but instead I was crapping on myself for being disorganised, not being at the office enough, not blogging in the last two days etc.  Obviously that’s not a good enough rant at oneself, so I upped it.  Because then it spiralled to not spending enough time with my children, not showing that I love my husband enough, not playing with the dogs enough, not seeing my friends enough, not being able to be all things to all people.  Blah blah blah.

It was tiring listening to myself rant.  I hate it.  But I realised something while I was shouting at myself…

The thing that I realised in all of that, is that as soon as I am totally nailing one aspect of my life, something else is suffering.  It’s suffering so bad.

For example in the last couple of days I have been owning Business Woman and Mom.  I was getting to most of my emails while still being around to help my kids through their homework.  But did I have time to blog?  Nope.  Did I cook?  Nope.  Did I connect with Seth last night?  Nope – I fell asleep at like 9pm.  Did I clean the house?  Oh heck no.  Although to be fair, I never get that last one right.

People often ask me how “I do it all” and so I’d like to just say very clearly, that I don’t.  I don’t do it all.

Not by myself anyway.

And even though I could rant at myself forever about my shortcomings, I know that it’s impossible to do it all, all the time.  Imagine how freaking exhausted you’d be.

I don’t even really know where this post is going, except to say to that woman out there who is feeling like a failure for dropping some of the many balls that we have to juggle – I see you.  I feel you.  And it’s OK, let’s just pick them up and start all over again tomorrow.

“Doing It All” Is A Myth was last modified: June 2nd, 2017 by 321Blog
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Charlene | High Heels And Fairy Tales 26 January 2017 at 11:56 AM

I needed to read this today! Thank you! It always helps that tiny bit knowing we’re not alone… in not being able to do EVERYTHING… and in beating ourselves up in our minds over it. x

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321Blog 27 January 2017 at 9:19 AM

I’m so glad that I could remind you of that! Here’s to a weekend of not beating ourselves up!

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Kimberley 26 January 2017 at 12:15 PM

So much truth! Impossible to be all the things all the time WELL. Good to have perspective and try do your best every day on whichever piece of the pie gets priority 🙂

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321Blog 27 January 2017 at 9:18 AM

Exactly! We do our best and whether we excel at the Mom thing today and the wife thing tomorrow, it’s OK.

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Shaveh 26 January 2017 at 2:18 PM

I now understand, I was wondering this exact thing and you’ve nailed it! One step at a time and then take a breath, then just keep stepping. We see you too-from one mom to another ????????

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321Blog 27 January 2017 at 9:18 AM

Exactly just one day at a time!

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Jodie 26 January 2017 at 3:23 PM

Oh I feel you! This juggling thing is rather tough. And let’s not mention the GUILT when you don’t get to something that you meant to or wanted to do, especially when it’s something involving the kids 🙁

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321Blog 27 January 2017 at 9:17 AM

Oh man that guilt is a killer!!!

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Tara Midgley 27 January 2017 at 9:53 AM

We do all do it all. Just not everyday or even every week. Also there is a loose definition of “all”.

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321Blog 27 January 2017 at 10:41 AM

Good point Tara – we do it all…. eventually 🙂

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