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A Few Things I’m Going To Change

13 November 2017
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If the hecticness of the last few weeks has taught me anything, it’s that I can’t summarise all the things I’ve learned in one sentence.  I mean, I have been sitting here for the last 10 minutes trying to figure out how to make it all fit into one succinct phrase that would perfectly sum it all up, but it’s just not possible.  Maybe after you read this you can write that sentence for me, but for now I’m going to break it up.

Last week I briefly chatted about how I may have gone slightly over the edge with my photography course.  It’s not the courses fault obvs, it’s my own.  The good news is that I’m feeling much better but I think it’s in the hindsight of no longer being committed to so much.  Everything sort of piqued in the last two weeks and now that it’s over it’s a like a weight off my shoulders.

But those couple of weeks taught me a few things and so I thought I’d share some things that I learned.  And more importantly maybe, are the changes that I’m going to be making to my lifestyle.

1. It’s OK to say NO…

The biggest thing I realised in the last few weeks is that I agree to take on too much.  I just say yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.  I’ll do that.  Don’t worry, I have it covered.  I’ll get it.  Need something done in a ridiculous amount of time with a high amount of stress?  I’m on it.

Must be the FOMO that I just can’t shake, but I hate feeling like I’m missing out or worse, that I’ll be letting someone down by not doing/being/seeing/saying/writing something.  It’s stupid because the more I take on, the less I can do well.  So no more overloading.

2. Putting your family first is more than OK

I used to feel guilty about turning something down because we’d had a bus week and just wanted to connect again as a family.  I will not feel that guilt anymore.  Or I’ll try not to anyway.

3. Social Media is great.  In small doses.

I’m not one to declare a mass social media break.  Or deletion of Facebook.  Or friends clean out.  Or anything really.  I dig social media.  I like it in my life but even as much as I enjoy it, I know that I can only take it in small doses.  Especially at certain times of the month.  So I will no longer post just for the sake of “getting something out”.  Nor will I continue scrolling if I notice that every post is starting to make me roll my eyes or start to feel a little green with envy.  I will put my phone down, walk over to one of my children and give them a snuggle instead.

 

Yeah, these three things may be no brainers for most people, but I find that in this whole blogging world it does make it that much harder to enforce.  But that’s exactly what I’m going to be doing from here on out.

Cheers to being OK with squelching the FOMO.

 

A Few Things I’m Going To Change was last modified: November 13th, 2017 by 321Blog
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Katherine Johnston 13 November 2017 at 12:22 PM

Nice one, coming at a time when I’m feeling exactly the same…your post helped me pick up my phone and in favour of family regroup time, turn down a social event I was umming and ahhing about 😉

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321Blog 13 November 2017 at 8:32 PM

YAY!!! Then my job here is totally done! This time of the year is especially difficult with so many social engagements happening. Well done you for turning it down!!

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Nicole 13 November 2017 at 3:16 PM

My go-to is, “I’m overwhelmed”.
And it happens, and it is ok to admit. It is often hard to see in the moment and sometimes only after the fact that you can acknowledge it. Feeling like this teaches us about ourselves, and what is not working. Or that there is too much going on in life.
You have listed three great ideas to take some of the pressure off- go with that!
Xx

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321Blog 13 November 2017 at 8:34 PM

YES to this – I honestly don’t see it while i’m stuck in it. But I will notice how short I am with my kids or how easily I cry over stupid things. Then eventually I’ll realise, oh hang on, this isn’t normal.

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Simone Cameron 14 November 2017 at 12:38 PM

I wish I had the ability to say NO…..I hope it’s something I can still learn…..

Great post though…I think a lot of us are going through these feelings! I had the worry while we were on holiday about my instagram feed being quiet….just pics of coffee and nothing blog/makup related…but I lived to tell the tale. Truth is I enjoyed the break so much…I’m battling to get back into it. lol.

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321Blog 17 November 2017 at 9:51 AM

I am so with you!! I have done the same and now from writing 5 posts a week if I actually do two it’s a lot. Ugh

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Shaveh 15 November 2017 at 12:38 AM

I’ve been strategizing how I can master the FOMO by cramming it into like 2hours a week and scheduling it all…… and pretending to be online. When I figure it out and clone myself I will let you know.
Letting go of the FOMO really helps with family/friends focus time. It’s not easy, but it can be done. (That’s why I’m posting this at 12:30 at night…….) we should have like FOMO’s anonymous, oh wait! That’d be another thing to sign up for – uh – nope!
Love your blog honesty – the struggle is real and we’re all human that way 👊🏽

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321Blog 17 November 2017 at 9:50 AM

LOL! Let’s join that FOMO group – I don’t want to miss out!

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Tertia Burns 23 November 2017 at 11:06 AM

I am so on the same page as you regarding social media . It has become too much of a ritual to grab my phone and scroll even if I end up reading the same thing over and over!!

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321Blog 23 November 2017 at 12:09 PM

Exactly! It’s so frustrating and draining all at the same time.

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